Frequently Asked Questions
Teen mediation is intended to help teens learn alternative dispute resolution skills.
The concept of mediation is a learned behavior that will be used in all types of relationships now.. and as adults in the future.
TEEN mediation and rates only apply when at least one party is between the ages of 13 - 17.
Both parties must voluntarily agree to all terms of mediation, which include mediating in 'good faith' (commitment to the mediation process and the desire to settle the conflict).
Signed approval by a parent or legal guardian will be needed before a mediation appointment will be scheduled.
A parent/guardian may be present during the mediation, but will be expected to remain a silent observer (unless the parent is one of the participants in the mediation).
There is no limit to the number of mediations a teen can participate in.
If participants reach a settlement agreement, a 'Memorandum of Understanding' or terms of agreement will be drafted for both parties to sign. (Teen mediation MOU is not a legal, binding agreement).
Does the mediation have to be between only teenagers?
Can I make the another party agree to mediate?
Although some mediators conduct court ordered mediation, we believe one of the key components to a successful mediation is parties choosing to resolve the conflict themselves. When someone is being compelled to mediate, they are less motivated to reach an agreement.
No, but it must include at least one teenager between the ages of 13-17
If I mediate with my teenager, will I be expected to compromise on a resolution?
Mediation really does mean .. 'meet in the middle'. Helping the parties find that middle or negotiate a resolution that both parties can agree to, is what the mediator does. (Yes... chances are if you are a parent agreeing to mediate with your teenager...you should expect to compromise and even provide 'reasons' to your point of view. You too will be expected to avoid 'trigger words' like "because I'm your Mom".
Consider that very soon, your teenager will need to manage his own issues and you may not be around to tell him how to do it. Allowing him the authority to use life-long skills such as communication, compromise and negotiation will serve to prepare him for 'the real world' .. so why not let him practice those skills with you!