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Mediation for college students aged 18+ will be conducted with the same rules that apply to rules of mediation adopted by the state of California.
Voluntary... Confidentiality ... Resolution
Mediation skills are learned behaviors that will be
used in all types of relationships now... and as adults in the future.
College mediation and rates apply when at least one party is a currently enrolled college student
Both parties must voluntarily agree to all terms of mediation, which include mediating in 'good faith' (commitment to the mediation process and the desire to settle the conflict).
Mediating parties will be required to read and understand agreement to mediate rules, confidentiality rules as stated by the state of California including Evidence Codes of mediation.
There is no limit to the number of mediations a currently enrolled college student may participate in.
If participants reach a settlement agreement, a 'Memorandum of Understanding' will be drafted for parties to sign. Because mediating parties of legal age (18+) can enter in to legal agreements, should both parties reach and sign an agreement, the agreement will be considered binding (unless parties stipulate differently prior to settlement).
Does the mediation have to be between only college students?
Can I make the another party agree to mediate?
Will I be expected to compromise on a resolution?
No, but it must include at least one currently enrolled college student. Both parties must be 18+ years of age.
Although some mediators conduct court ordered mediation, mediation provided by Trust ME for students, parents and teens is voluntary mediation only. We believe one of the key components to a successful mediation is parties choosing to resolve the conflict themselves. When someone is being compelled to mediate, they are less motivated to reach an agreement.
Mediation really does mean .. 'meet in the middle'. Helping parties find that middle or negotiate a resolution that both parties can agree to, is what the mediator does. Participating in mediation does not require an agreement in the end. Parties will be encouraged to weigh their options and ultimately decide if they will agree to a negotiated settlement. Yes... chances are if you are a parent agreeing to mediate with your teenager...you should expect to compromise and even provide 'reasons' to your point of view. You too will be expected to avoid 'trigger words' like "because I'm your Mom".
Consider that very soon, your teenager will need to manage his own struggles and conflict and you may not be around to tell him how to do it. Allowing her the authority to use life-long skills such as communication, compromise and negotiation will serve to prepare your teen for 'the real world' .. so why not let him practice those skills with you!